Embracing Your True Self
“There’s no such thing as true love without first embracing your true self,” words of advice from Genevieve Delacroix, the most sought after modiste of the Ton to Penelope on the eve of her wedding.
One definition of the saying “you can’t fit a square peg into a round hole” describes someone who feels like they do not fit into the niche of their society.
For far too many years, many of us have been square pegs trying to fit ourselves into round holes.
Why?
Because we were trying to fit into niches of society that we felt were more acceptable. Why?
Because it felt safer to do things that other people approved of.
The problem with this is that it prevents us from being authentic.
Take, for instance, Penelope Featherington from the popular series "Bridgerton." Penelope often felt like she didn’t belong in the world she was born into. No one ever listened to her, never mind “see” her. She got used to standing at the back of the room, like a wallflower. But from that very spot she hid in, she found her passion for writing. She heard all the gossip, and that is what led her to become the elusive unknown writer Lady Whistledown.
Her unique perspective as an observer allowed her to capture the essence of her society in her writing, transforming her perceived weakness into a strength.
If you are trying to figure out where you fit in or belong, or know that you are not on your soul path, ask yourself this question:
Who do you allow define you?
If you are trying to be something to satisfy others you may not be living in alignment with your inner motivators or your values. Your values are your guiding principles, those things that get you up and out, doing what you want because they bring you joy.
You might be getting outer praise and recognition, but it will fall flat if it does not resonate with your inner motivators and your values.
The alchemy happens when you define those inner motivators and discover the inner conflicts that stop you from following them. Living out of alignment with your true self leads to exhaustion and feelings of hopelessness.
When you learn to be comfortable with your unique true self and be driven by it, that’s the path of your soul.
Like when Penelope gave up writing she admitted; “I tried to give it up and I felt like I was losing a part of myself.”
Embrace your true self, and let your unique qualities shine. You will find where you belong and you will be seen and heard by those who matter, just like Penelope found her true love, and found a career.
Learning how to be authentically you is a major theme in my 4 week transformational journey Master Your Confidence which starts on July 15th. You can find more information here.