Many of us live our lives in fear of really being seen and heard for who we are.   We are afraid of being vulnerable.

We don’t feel good enough or bright enough, or thin enough, or educated enough or whatever enough.

We will do anything to fit in.  This can be at work, with friends and even with our family of origin.    However, to “fit” in requires us to change or to hide a part of ourselves, meanwhile, sabotaging our authenticity.

In the most recent series of Bridgerton actor Luke Newton and fellow Galway girl Nicola Coughlan go full circle through a journey of vulnerability and show us how rewarding it can be to stay true to yourself and come out victorious in the end.     

Actor Luke Newton, in an interview openly speaks about his personal vulnerability journey.   He says, “At the start of the whole process there felt like a bit of an expectation to step into the positions that had been created by our previous leads”.

“There’s no such thing as true love without first embracing your true self,” words of advice from Genevieve Delacroix, the most sought after modiste of the Ton to Penelope on the eve of her wedding.

Even a Wallflower Can Bloom

This line from the popular Netflix series Bridgerton, encapsulates the show's theme of transformation and self-discovery, emphasising that even those who are initially overlooked or underestimated have the potential to grow and flourish. The series, based on Julia Quinn's novels, highlights the journeys of characters who defy societal expectations and find their own paths to happiness and fulfilment.

Here are 3 main ways you stop yourself putting your business out there, I have been there too!

1. Fear of rejection

Rejection is the ultimate insult to a sense of belonging.

What if I put myself out there and no one comes to me? How will that make me feel?

Will it trigger the old wounds of unworthiness and shame? Will the usual rhetoric start, “I knew no one would want to come to me!”. “No one ever listens to me anyway, told you so”.

One definition of the saying “you can’t fit a square peg into a round hole” says that it describes the unusual individualist who could not fit into a niche of their society.

Now here my friends in my opinion is where the problem lies.

It is the use of the word “unusual” which when we are talking about a person could be better described as “unique” individual. At the end of the day we are all unique and we are all individual.

So here’s my journey through this exact problem.