There is always someone one step ahead of us in an area of our life and we are always one step ahead of someone else in another area. And this includes our relationships and how consciously and empowered we act in them. In the middle of the word empowerment is the all-important word “power,” because it’s power that gets triggered in relationships ALL the time. The relationship dance begins when we start to realise at about the age of 2 that what we do has an influence on those around us. The terrible twos for instance is when children begin to realise their actions cause reactions! To put it another way consciousness starts to come into our life; we act out in a conscious way in order to get a reaction from those around us.

Conscious Relating - Keys to Relationship Success

What’s included in this episode of the How to be a Modern Woman Series …

The purpose of talking about conscious relations has to do with having relationships that are more harmonious and co-operative, that steer clear of drama instead choosing an emotionally balanced and calm approach.

We will want to learn how to stay true to ourselves in relationships, and not get lost in emotions and feelings and to not allow ourselves be steered off course from our authentic self. You might hear this referred to and hear someone say they “lost themselves in relationships.”

While this is something that can happen in early stages of relationships or the honeymoon period when people are on their best behaviour. When we go on a first date, and I am talking generally here now of course, we bring our best selves to that date, and we do this very consciously. We want to make a good impression and we generally want the other person to like us. The other person is likely doing the same thing, bringing their best selves to the date as chances are they want you to like them as well!

When things start to go wrong, or to put it a more honest way when life happens and obstacles hit and perhaps children come along the real person comes out and how we all deal with life is that we come from our unconscious 95% of the time. So out the window will go the consciously behaving perfect and in a way that we want the other person to like us.