Surrendering to belonging
Surrendering, in this case, is not about giving up or, maybe it is. What if surrendering to belonging brings freedom and sovereignty, the very thing we are chasing after but never feel like we grasp onto?
Is belonging a place we feel we aspire to languish in? Do we say:
When I feel like I belong here, then I will be happy
Is it a tangible place or a fantasy land? Does it matter?
True belonging to me, is surrendering to the fact that we have a right to be here, right now at this very moment and, that we have the right to be seen and heard in this present moment whatever that looks like for us.
It helps to surrender to what the outcome will look like, in its entirety. Allow room for pivoting and changing, make space to allow something better in.
When we live our life from the core of our being, authentic to our core beliefs and values, not allowing ourselves to get sucked into dramas that don’t serve us or pull us off track, we will get to where we want to go. This place of belonging inside ourselves.
We can prepare a map for our journey, arm ourselves with whatever tools we have but, we do well to surrender to the way and what it will reveal to us.
What if we are living in the illusion of a story that isn’t real? How will we handle this? Will we fall back into feeling like thinking we don’t belong or can we dig deep into our toolbox and work with something we already have inside?
The obstacles we will meet along the way are our teachers. And yes, sometimes they do seem to get bigger and bigger and feel scarier. This shows us how far we have come, how much more we have stepped outside our comfort zone. Now we may be pushing this same comfort zone again and another fear may come. If we work with this fear and not against it, we can expand even further. It doesn’t mean we are right back where we started, it may mean that our comfort zone is expanding again. Our fear may be urging us to take another leap of faith, break through yet another glass ceiling to get to where we want to be.
Once we stay on track, surrender to the knowledge that we do belong we can allow the story to unfold in its own time, in its own way. If we stick to our guns so to speak around our core beliefs and authenticity unsurmountable challenges will dissolve.
It is not always easy to stay true, we can often think that someone else has an easier route and may feel like jumping on their path and getting off our own. Far away hills are always greener. BUT we are not that somebody else and we can never, ever walk in someone else’s shoes totally, we are who we are and they are who they are.
Just for today .. surrender to the knowledge that you belong, right here and right now whatever that looks like to you.
Until next time … keep the faith,
Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Founder IrishHealthHour, Founder Global Emotional Health Summit, Soul Care Practitioner, Energy Therapist, Author and Mum
