How to Make Lemonade from Life’s Lemons

Many of us find it a lot easier to talk about what we don't want rather than concentrate on what we do.

The reason?

You can be so accustomed to living from the energy of what you don't want, and getting its results that change seems daunting and sometimes impossible.  Maybe you don't have the vocabulary to see beyond what you are in, but perhaps there is a niggling feeling stirring inside you.

There can be a myriad of things that keep you stuck where you are, and a myriad of excuses you tell yourself why you should stay there.

We most often focus on what we cannot change and stick to that story.

It's a safe bet to do that and you can fool yourself quite easily into staying there and not doing the work you could be doing to bring about change.

The definition of resolution is the act of solving a conflict.

So therefore you may want to look at the conflicts you have and find what it is you need to resolve.

Here are some common themes or conflicts that keep us stuck in a rut or feeling overwhelmed.   The way through them is change.

1. You may wonder how you could change while navigating society's expectations.

But the issue here is -

• Do these expectations serve you?  

• Are you giving your power away to outdated views that don't really represent your best interests?

When you live your life in alignment with someone else's expectations, you are cutting yourself off from your own values.

Look at what you tell yourself about this and see how it makes you FEEL.    Any discomfort will bring you towards your truth.   Become conscious of it and write it down.  On the other side of your discomfort is the resolution.

2. You may worry about how any change you make will affect the family dynamics in which you live, and therefore tell yourself, it's best you wait until a certain thing happens, then you will change.

The issue here is

• Is this the best way to live your life?

Are you really doing it for the benefit of other people or situations or is there something else holding you back, fear perhaps?

Or disbelief that the conflict you feel could ever be resolved effectively? It is the fear or disbelief that may really be holding you where you are?

If yes.

Where did this disbelief originate? Does it go back to societal disbelief that you could change or perhaps it's more ancestral, no one in your family dared to tread outside the boundaries of what was expected so why should you?

How does this make you feel?

3. Perhaps you followed someone else's dream and are living their life vicariously.

The resolution to this conflict is to find your own dream and be in alignment with it.

The issue here is

• This may bring up another barrel full of problems for you to dwell on, perhaps a feeling of letting others down if you don't do what they want you to do.

Sooner or later when you realise that true contentment comes from authenticity and honesty, you will want to step into your own personal power and take control back of the conflicts that, when resolved, will lead you on a road to living a fulfilled life to your full potential.

You don't have to take on everything at once, you can look at one area of your life that feels out of balance and that you want to resolve and work on that.

Chances are it will have a ripple effect for you. If you need to carve time to look after your health and wellness, you will be better able to provide for those around you emotionally if you are well. If you need to concentrate on making family time a priority, chances are you will become more intentionally focused on how you spend the rest of your day. If you need to educate yourself further in order to change jobs, resolve to get rid of any story you hold that stops you from doing it. You are in control of how you spend your time and you can take the steps to change the trajectory of your life, no matter how small the first step is.

If you want more resources on how to live your life authentically I invite you to join my Facebook group Keys to Unlocking Your Feminine Potential where I offer you ways to make changes and to live your life on purpose.

Until next time,

Dolores